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The Centers for Disease Control conservatively estimates that every 13 seconds in the United States alone, another teenager contracts a sexually transmitted disease.
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60 will be infected within the next 24 hours.
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HIV, the virus which causes AIDS, is the only diseasecausing organism which has circled the planet in only one third of a generation.
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See everett Cooper, the former US.
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Surgeon General says there has never been a disease so tailormade to wipe out an entire generation.
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I want you to meet a very special little boy.
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His name is James.
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He’s six years old, and he’s dying of AIDS.
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His parents, Rich and Ruby, were married on December 3, 1983.
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Unknown to anyone at the time of their wedding, one of them was already infected with the AIDS virus.
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The following year, little James was born.
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For Rich, a college graduate with a degree in biological sciences, the future looked especially bright.
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Suddenly, the family began getting sick, and all three were diagnosed with AIDS.
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Rich and Ruby both died within a year of the diagnosis.
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James’s grandparents have been caring for him ever since.
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My son and his wife were married for four years before they found out that they all had AIDS.
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My grandson was around three at the time.
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Evidently, one of them had to have gotten it before they were married.
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No one thought, because they were a heterosexual family, that it could be anything like AIDS.
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In fact, when they went to the clinic, they were assured that they couldn’t have AIDS, but they gave them the test anyway.
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My son had cancer of the liver and of his pelvic bones and in his bone marrow, and she developed cancer of the brain, and there were large lumps all over her head, and she was bleeding from the stomach.
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It was rather a horrible death for both of them.
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My son was a very brave person.
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It’s a little hard for me to talk about it.
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He said, mom, they just found out I have AIDS.
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And all I could say was, my God.
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And he said, I thought I would live to be at least 60.
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And then he asked me to make certain that he didn’t have much pain.
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He didn’t want to be in a lot of pain.
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Although the physical, financial, and emotional strain has been almost unbearable, the grandparents have struggled to make the remaining time for James as happy as possible.
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Among his many medical complications, james must have his food pumped every night directly into his stomach.
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He’s had three central lines into the large artery that goes into his heart.
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He’s had two Ng tubes put into his stomach, and he’s had a gastrostomy, and he’s been in a lot of pain.
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That’s the worst, the pain.
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And sometimes the days have been so bad, we just have to give him so much medication.
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He’s sedated the entire day, and we just have to try to rouse him to make sure he’s all right.
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Those are the worst days when he’s not active and he can’t talk to us because he’s really out of it.
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It’s 24 hours a day care for him with my husband and myself.
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I’m Kathy Kaye, the executive director of California Healthcare Advocates an organization that was formed to educate the general public about sexually transmitted disease and the behaviors that put a person at risk of contracting these diseases.
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The purpose of this video is to teach you about AIDS clear up any confusion that you might have and help you to make choices that will save your life.
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The United States government has a health department called the Centers for Disease Control which has monitored the AIDS epidemic from the beginning.
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Experts from the CDC, as well as other specialists will explain to you about the virus and how it operates.
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What you’re looking at is the known causative agent of the disease AIDS.
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This is the HIV one virus.
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It’s a very interesting organism and it’s uniquely designed to live successfully in a cell.
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When somebody is infected with the human immunodeficiency virus the virus attacks certain kinds of white blood cells which are critical to the immune system.
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When that happens, the person develops what we call immune deficiency.
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And when people have immune deficiency they become susceptible to a whole variety of very serious infections and even some kinds of cancers that people with normal immune systems would not be susceptible to.
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Infection by retro viruses is permanent.
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Once you are infected, you never lose it.
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You never lose it because the genetic material of the virus becomes incorporated into the genetic material of the cell that’s parasitized.
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Once the patient acquires human immune deficiency virus the patient will feel well for several years.
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The incubation period from onset of viral infection to the development of symptoms ranges from three to seven years and may, in fact, be longer than that.
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People can have the virus and be infectious for seven, eight, nine years and the disease state not be shown.
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I think it’s only a matter of getting enough years history and we’ll probably find out that people can be infected a lot longer before they really start developing symptoms of the disease.
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Someone who’s infected with the AIDS virus may be completely free of any symptoms.
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It may be strong, vigorous, and in very good health.
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Even though he’s infected with his virus california Healthcare Advocates goes into the schools to warn you that you don’t have to look infected or even feel sick in order to pass this disease onto other people.
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It’s only in the end stage of the disease that you have pain and suffering because your body can no longer fight off infections.
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AIDS means that this person has severe opportunistic illnesses meaning illnesses they’re seen only when the immune system in the body is malfunctioning.
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These opportunities illnesses are very difficult to treat and the mortality, therefore, from these illnesses is very high.
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A couple of months ago, my life took a drastic change.
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I was admitted into a hospital and told I had pneumocystis pneumonia.
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I went into the hospital June 9 with pneumocystis pneumonia, which is what 62% of all age patients come down with.
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First, I’ve had pneumocystic pneumonia, and I’ve had three different types of cancer, including having my testicle removed for it.
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I’ve lost, like, £50 because of the fact that I could not eat due to the sores in my mouth.
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Since then, I have been diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, and now I have a lesion in my brain called toxo.
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I also have a lesion in my intestines.
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I have neuropathy in my feet, my legs, and a fear of many other things happening.
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And then in June, I had cancer the spine, lymph nodes in the spine, where I went through four months of chemotherapy.
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The sores go all the way down my throat, and the yeast is all through my system, including my guts.
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One of the situations is a caposes sarcoma, a type of cancer that affects the capillaries, particularly on the surface of the skin, and will develop these purple blotches and potentially lesions on the extremities.
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This particular cancer in the patient who has AIDS is a very aggressive, malignant disease, usually fatal within months to a year’s time.
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These lesions eventually spread down here to my feet.
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This starts to work like a tourniquet if you grow lesions on the other side.
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Before I was even out of the hospital, I came down with fungal meningitis, which I still have and for which there is no cure for me.
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I’ve had blood transfusions, four cat scans, ultrasound, dialysis.
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My kidneys failed for a while because of the medication.
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I’ve had a couple of brain surgeries.
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AIDS can also seek out certain brain cells and can selectively grow in them as well.
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People may get signs of dementia, personality changes, losses of memory, difficulty in calculating figures, and this type of thing, because the virus will, in fact the brain, cause inflammation and disruption of neurologic function.
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If you get AIDS, you’re in big trouble.
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You are not going to live very long, very long being a matter of months or years.
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And that’s what’s scary about AIDS.
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It’s not like it used to be.
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It used to be that you could get a shot of penicillin if you got VD, but that’s no longer true.
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There’s no shot that anyone can give you.
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If you get AIDS, you’re dead.
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What most concerns me about this disease, AIDS, is that so far, there’s no cure.
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So far, no one has survived the full blown AIDS disease.
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Knowing that I’m not going to live to see the fulfillment of the hopes and the dreams that I’ve had is pretty hard to take.
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There’s a lot of times that I wake up and I cry in the middle of the night.
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I wake up crying, and there’s a lot of times that I just cry, even during the day knowing that I’m just going to die and I’m going to die a pretty painful and horrible death.
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We’ve been talking a lot about AIDS and you’ve been hearing about AIDS in the newspaper.
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You’ve heard it on the radio, television, and some of you have even had classes on AIDS and what it’s all about.
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So I’m going to ask you some questions and find out what you know about the virus.
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First of all, what does the term AIDS stand for? Yeah.
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What does the term acquired mean? If you were to go down and acquire an automobile, would it all of a sudden just be in your garage? No, you’d have to do something to get that car.
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You’d go down to the car lot, you’d pick out your automobile, you’d sign papers, maybe you’d put down some money and you drive it home.
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So you’d acquire that car while the AIDS virus is the same way.
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It’s not going to all of a sudden just, boom, be in your bloodstream.
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You have to do something in order to get that virus into your bloodstream.
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How do you get the AIDS virus or HIV into your body? You get it when you have sex with another person.
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It hasn’t okay.
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Right.
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Multiple partners is one of the main things that gets a person at risk.
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Your chance of getting the virus increases with each successive partner that you have.
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However, you can get it the first time that you ever have sex with anybody if that person is infected with the virus.
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What’s another way you can get the virus? I have blood transfusion.
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And before 1985, there was a big risk of getting AIDS because they didn’t have a test to test the blood.
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But after 1985, the blood supply is much more safe, and only about one in 40,000 units of blood are infected with the virus at this time.
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Okay, we’ve talked about sex.
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Then there’s blood transfusions.
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What’s another way? By using IV needles.
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IV drug use.
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If you’re sharing needles with someone who’s got the virus, then you can get it that way because you’re injecting their blood right into your bloodstream.
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Okay.
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What’s another way? If a mother has AIDS, right, she can pass the virus to her baby.
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If a mother is pregnant and she is HIV positive, she can pass that virus to her baby, and about 30% of the babies born to HIV infected mothers will have the virus.
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What’s another way? This one is really controversial.
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You’re not going to like it at all.
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I’m kissing someone that has it.
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Okay, so would you say deep French kissing? Yeah, I mean, where you really go for it.
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That kind of kissing can put you at risk for this virus because the virus has been cultured from the saliva of people with AIDS, especially toward the end stages of the disease.
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Because they have more of the virus in their body fluids.
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We have a large pool of infected individuals out there that no one knows who and where they are, and they are continued to spread this disease without even being aware they’re doing that.
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I didn’t get tested for AIDS because of fear, and I just wanted to continue my sexual behavior.
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Now, why wouldn’t a person tell you that they were infected with the virus before they had sex with you? Maybe they didn’t know.
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They wouldn’t know.
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And I think that’s one of the main things.
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There are a few people that don’t care what happens to other people, but most people don’t want to take you to the grave with them.
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It’s just that they don’t know that they have the virus.
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AIDS is transmitted in large measure through voluntary acts, particularly sexual acts.
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So in theory, at least, people can change their chances of being exposed to the AIDS virus by changing behavior, we really can affect the course of the epidemic.
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I work on a college campus, and I have students who work for me, and I know that those kids are probably the most sexually active group in this country at that age.
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They are completely ignorant about how they contract this, and they think it’s someone else’s problem.
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In New York City, the biggest killer of women between the ages of 20 and 29 is AIDS, and that means they’re getting it in high school and college.
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In all probability.
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I developed the disease through having sexual contact in the basically free sex society, and my husband died with AIDS.
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It’s a lethal viral infection.
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You don’t want to become infected with this.
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You don’t want to take any chance of being infected with this.
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And it’s not just a problem for the gay community.
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It’s a problem that is moving into the heterosexual community.
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Heterosexuals have the opportunity that gay men and drug abusers never had.
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That is to anticipate the epidemic and to try to control it before it really becomes an overwhelming problem.
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I think if heterosexuals make no changes at all in their behavior, that ultimately this will become a major problem for them.
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At my 20 year reunion from high school, there were probably some people there with genital herpes or other venereal diseases that were incurable, but they were there.
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At your 20 year reunion from high school, they’re going to be empty chairs because they will have died of AIDS.
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We’ve all been hearing a lot about safe sex.
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If there’s such a thing as safe sex, then what’s all the hassle about? I mean, what are we worried about anyway? And what is, say, sex protection, using protection.
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Okay, what would that protection be? Condoms.
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Condoms? Do you think that’s a good way to go? No.
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It could slip off or break.
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Okay.
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The fail rate for condom use is 10% to 20% when used to prevent pregnancy.
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10% for adults, 20% for teenagers.
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Well, when you consider that you can only get pregnant a few days out of every month and you can get infected with the AIDS virus, how many days out of every month? Every day.
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So what that says is that the fail rate when using condoms to prevent the spread of AIDS is going to be much higher than the fail rate to prevent pregnancy.
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I sit here almost a pool of the newspapers every day in these various headlines that talk to the issue of having safe sex.
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I think this whole issue of safe sex is indeed a myth.
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The idea that condoms are going to make it safe for us to continue to live highly promiscuous lives, I think is ridiculous.
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Condoms are not 100% safe.
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First of all, they do may have holes in them that condoms are made out of latex types of plastics.
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This AIDS virus is so small that as many as 230,000,000 of these little virus particles could rest on a period at the end of a sentence of normal type.
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Condoms are not some foolproof method of making absolutely sure that you’re not going to get something.
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Condoms are a false hope to continue a dangerous sexual behavior.
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Medical evidence now shows that our bodies were not designed for sexual promiscuity.
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The safe sex condom campaign is simply a matter of continuing in promiscuity and continuing in sexual behavior.
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That really is not safe.
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Obviously, the safest sex is to not have sex at all.
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I mean, really, the only completely safe sexual practice is probably a meaningful look.
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Perhaps the more appropriate word would be something like smart sex, where you are actually intelligently weighed the situation and the potential benefits and the risks.
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And once a person will actually think about it, the best thing is to avoid sexual intercourse.
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A young life is far too great to throw away on one sexual experience or a high or whatever.
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I mean, it’s far too great.
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It’s kind of like you can think of it in terms of Russian roulette.
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What is it, one in six that you’re going to die when you use a condom? It’s like you’re playing Russian roulette.
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There is less chance that when you pull the trigger, you’re going to get a bullet in your head.
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But who wants to play Russian roulette with a condom? So the next time that somebody wants you to go to bed with them, with or without a condom, then just make sure that you’re actually going to bed.
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It’s not just you and him or you and her.
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It’s that you’re packing along a loaded revolver with you when you go.
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And not only that, when you go to bed with that person, you’re not just going to bed with that person, you’re going to bed with every other person that person has ever gone to bed with before in their life.
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So just picture it’s as if you’re all crawling into one bed together.
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We’ve been doing a lot of talking about not having sex.
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But if everybody stops having sex, not only will there be no babies, but there won’t be any fun, right? Right.
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There has to be an answer to this dilemma.
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What’s the answer to it? Monogamy.
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Monogamy? What does that mean? Just having one partner, only having sex with one person in marriage, in a monogamous relationship for life, for as long as you live.
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That’s the answer to the problem.
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You don’t have to worry about disease at all when you do that.
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What if I want to have sex before I get married? Well, I guess you just have to be prepared to die.
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And you’ll probably take with you your spouse and one or more of your children.
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But, you know, when I come into a classroom like this, it is totally unrealistic for me to think that every single person here has never had sex.
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That’s just not what the statistics show.
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And so some people would say, well, it’s too late for me.
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I’m not a virgin anymore.
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I’ve already had sex.
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And that’s why I want to include in this the whole concept of secondary virginity.
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Have you ever heard of that before? It means that if you’ve already had sex, you make a decision, and that decision can be today, that you make a decision that you’re never again going to have sex until you meet and marry that one special person because just meeting him or her isn’t good enough.
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So many times we meet a person, we think, this is the one.
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This is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.
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And in two months, the infatuation is over, and you decided that that isn’t really the one you want.
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So secondary virginity is a decision not to do it until your wedding night.
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In our society, we go, isn’t this a shock that this horrible epidemic has come upon us and it’s really cramping our style and we can’t do what we want to do anymore? Really, up until this point, people have thought it was their right to have sex whenever they wanted to, and we’re finding out that that right has responsibility that goes along with it.
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Well, God knew that from the very beginning, and he had a plan that sex was to be protected within marriage.
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Sex is a great thing within marriage, and it’s a wonderful thing, and it makes a marriage complete.
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It’s for enjoyment as well as procreation.
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But when it goes outside of marriage, that’s when trouble arises.
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Christians will not be exempt from this disease just because they were raised in a Christian home or go to a Christian school or attend a good Bible believing church.
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They will only be exempt if they obey what the Bible says about not having sex outside of marriage.
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And that’s not going to be easy for you, and I’m not going to tell you that it will be.
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There’s a Bible verse that says, no temptation will overcome you, but such as is common to man, but God is faithful who will not allow you to be tempted past what you’re able, but with the temptation, he will give you a way of escape that you might be able to endure it.
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The key is don’t be alone together.
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Don’t allow yourself to be in situations where the temptation is going to be so great that you give into it and then feel so guilty and so bad afterwards.
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And there is nothing that will get a marriage off to a better start than knowing that you were in control, that each of you did not violate the other, that you waited until your marriage night because you respected each other and you respected God so much that you wanted to start your marriage in obedience to Him.
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I was actually hurting God’s feelings, and we don’t think of sin normally as being that way, but that’s the way it was.
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And once I realized that, then it gave me more of an ability to stop that kind of behavior and align myself with the truth of God.
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I would rather have AIDS and have the relationship that I have with Jesus Christ than not have AIDS and not know Jesus at all.
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You’re going to know people with AIDS.
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You’re going to know friends that get AIDS and then have to go through a gruesome death.
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And it’s really important that you don’t alienate them, but that you reach out to them and show them the compassion and love that Jesus would.
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You’re not going to get AIDS by going over to their home.
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You’re not going to get AIDS by sitting by their bed and reading to them.
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You’re not going to get AIDS by hugging them or holding their hand.
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The toughest thing has been having people tell you that they don’t want to be around you because of the fact that you have AIDS.
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The future hasn’t been written yet.
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The choices you make today will impact tomorrow.
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Once the AIDS virus is in your body, there is no second chance.
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Choosing abstinence is no different than the choice to say no to drugs.
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No one can make that choice for you.
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Do not have sex before marriage.
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I say this because I know what it means if you should get AIDS.
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I’ve gone through all the horrors, all the worst things that I could ever imagine.
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Imagine it isn’t worth a few moments of pleasure and a lifetime of regret.
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And those just aren’t empty words.
A hard-hitting and dynamic presentation of the one sure-fire method of avoiding AIDS. This video provides clear insight from a medical, Biblical, and emotional perspective and is considered one of the best resources available. A must for teenagers and parents.
